“askaSANEbrony” SANE. Yeah. Because sanity is a good word to use and not another word that stigmatizes mental patients & mental illness. Yeppers. You’re doing a fan-fucking-tastic job of trying to appear as the voice of reason here, Mod. No ableist language in your url AT ALL.

asknethesem:

Words have more than one meaning my friend. They can have different base meanings, their meaning can also change depending on context.
My blog title uses a different meaning to the one you’re referring to, and is in the context of describing myself, not other people.
If I were to belittle a person based on their physical or mental disposition, that would be ablism. Until that time comes, I’d recommend you spend your breath supporting a positive cause helping those who feel alone and uncertain.
I wish you good fortune on that endeavour.
SANE
/seɪn/
reasonable or sensible.
“a sane discussion of the important social issues of our time”
synonyms: sensible, practical, advisable, responsible, realistic,
full of common sense, prudent, circumspect, pragmatic, wise,
reasonable, rational, mature, level-headed, commonsensical,
judicious, politic, sound, balanced, sober…

Now that’s some major swinging and hoping to catch some straws there from the anon.

Hey anon, if you’re going to attack someone on the words they use in their name, how about learning what the words actually mean, eh?

At this rate, they’ll probably claim my blog is belittling to people with eating disorders because I have the word chef in it…
(Seriously, wouldn’t surprise me)

Please clarify as to what the “unwanted parts” of the fandom are.

Unwanted would be the undesirable, or what one could commonly refer to as creepers.
Don’t look at this as me saying we should fight against R34 content either. I share a similar stance to the other blogs I mentioned at the start of my post in regards to it, I have no issues with (most) of it, as long as it’s kept where children won’t stumble across it.

The things we want to actively remove are the people who attack and abuse others for having a different opinion, harass people at events and so forth. basically, people who do things that are unwanted or illegal in society in general.

Now the numbers who do this are very low, probably lower than some other fandoms I’ve been in, however we’re not immune from it, and it’s one of the biggest things we get attack over every time. being seen to have a solid “no means no” stance will help to alleviate some of that pressure.

There’s no easy solution, or “quick fix” to this. it’s going to take time and effort from a huge number of people to achieve. It’s already started, We’ve just got to keep it going and to get more vocal in pushing it.

As a member of the brony community, what 3 things do you think our fandom needs to be called out on or improve upon? What 3 things would you say the fandom does good on & you would encourage to keep up? Remember, this is about fandom NOT the show itself. PUBLISH this & tag it “#LOTMOT” (short for Less of This, More of That) so others can see. Anyone who agrees/disagrees with the below answer, reply with your thoughts and experiences! Want this Ask too? Read my post tagged #LOTMOTorigin

This, for me is something I’ve recently started getting an active interest in, in my previous experiences, it’s rare to see a fandom actively looking to improve itself as much as the brony fandom is.

blogs like poniesforparents, askasanebrony and equestria-faily have been big motivators for me to take an active role into helping improve attitudes towards and within the fandom in general. While there will always be those who won’t, or don’t want to listen, I feel that having a firm, responsible, calm and well considered viewpoint will be vital to improving how things are.

The fandom does many great things, but we can always do better.

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for a start, I feel that criticism, and how bronies respond to it, is for me, the first of our biggest failings. It’s not easy to take criticism of yourself and the things you enjoy, especially if you haven’t had to deal with it on a larger scale (I’m not talking about attacks here, I’ll get to that later). Many people respond quite negatively because they’re often not sure how to deal with it properly. this has, in my view, led to a problem where those who criticize feel that they are correct in what they say, and so they criticize the fandom more. this is circular cycle that escalates, sometimes rather quickly, resulting in generalized attacks coming from both sides.

Responding to such things in a proper way can be tricky when someone feels that it’s an attack on themselves, and as a result are fairly defensive and emotional about it. Taking the time to respond in a manner that promotes a proper dialog is important and is more likely to yield desirable results for both sides, if this approach does end up failing, people have to accept that the person is not likely to listen and move on. Any attacks made will only make a situation which could be resolved easily, that much worse.

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but by the same token, I feel that people shouldn’t defend the bad parts of the fandom. These are the undesirable elements that we don’t want, but when people instinctively respond to these elements being called out, it helps send the wrong message to those outside the fandom with regards to the overall stance towards these elements (admittedly, it doesn’t help in any way when they are called out with a series of falsehoods and fabrications too, however, the knee-jerk reactions do make matters worse).
the use of comments such as “not all bronies are like that” in these discussions, while true, are easily dismissed by the people making the claims, and should be avoided whenever possible.
While this isn’t one of the biggest problems that the fandom does face, it seems to be the most frequent, with the near constant claims that unacceptable elements are allowed to flourish without being shuned from the fandom, often cycling through a veritable laundry list of claims, and accusations.

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And finally, for now, in my list of things that I feel the fandom needs to be called out on and improve is our pride.
Pride is a great thing, it’s a great motivator, in just the right amount, however I personally feel that one a larger scale, the fandom has gotten too proud of itself, this is toxic to the overall perception of the fandom from the outside. We can tend to be viewed as overly self absorbed and arrogant because of it, with too many people having a view that the fandom has no faults and any attempts to bring light to any perceived as lies.
it’s, to me, one of the fandoms biggest downfalls. the near constant self-congratulatory attitude displayed by a lot of people (even if what happened barely has a link to the fandom) is a huge sign that the successes of the fandom has led to an attitude of overconfidence and accomplishment that, in a lot of cases, isn’t actually a result of anything the fandom has done at all.
this criticism isn’t to be viewed as to say we shouldn’t have pride though. By all means, we should, the fandom has achieved a lot of great things, however people need to be more humble about it, and need to realise that just because something that may happen that’s casually linked to the fandom, doesn’t mean that the fandom was behind the change.

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But with negatives aside, there’s a lot to be said for the positives that happen within and around the fandom.
Several of these are well known, initiatives such as safe search wrap up are a perfect example of one of the ways that the fandom is helping to improve the online environment for young people who go looking for content.
This is a major contribution that I feel should definitely keep growing, and it’s expansion to cover more than just the search engines is a good leap forward.

The fandoms sense of community and acceptance is a major plus for it.
there are a few times I’ve run into problems (these are often people who fall into the “unwanted in the fandom” category), however I’ve found that the overwhelming majority of members are accepting of anyone who is taking part of anything within the fandom, no matter the differences between each other. As with any large group, there’s many things to work out, and it’s a constant battle, however I feel overall that the attitudes are positive and helpful. When someone needs help, often people are willing to offer it in whichever way they can.

My final point for this, incredibly long (for me), wall of text is a focus on the fandoms ability to raise awareness to issues that affect peoples lives, even outside the circles of the fandom. the charity and awareness campaigns performed by the fandom are often hugely successful, in many cases, far exceeding the initial goals set for them.
using the fandom in this way is a very positive thing, as it helps both inside and outside the fandom. The issues often raised will affect many members in some way or another, so the use of a common passion to help spread the message always makes it easier to get the point across.

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For all the points I raise, from me, these are personal observations, much of my experiences within the fandom, for a large part have been limited due to external factors (mostly my work being in the middle of nowhere). This has, in many ways resulted in what can be perceived as a fairly narrow view of what happens overall, and I acknowledge this.
However, I fundamentally believe in the fandom, and the vast majority of the people within it. While there may be incidents from time to time, which will be screamed about by people against the fandom, they are, in reality rare and/or minor events when compared to external occurrences.

The recent increase in the number of bronies taking a more positive response towards negativity is a large turning point for the fandom, with the message of “this is what we’re truly about, these are the things we truly stand for” starting to get louder, I see things getting better overall.

Stamping out the unwanted elements from any fandom is a never ending battle, and I feel there’s still a long way to go for the brony fandom, and it’s a job made that much harder with people trying to actively tear it down at the same time. But the persistence of the growing number of positive members leading the way is paying off, and will endure in time.

I love this fandom, I love the show, and a vast majority of the content out there. I don’t think anything will change this for me, it’s a place I feel comfortable to be who I am at heart, and I think that’s what truly matters.

Rei_zero

broniesagainstbullshit:

Less of This, More of That”

Based off of my “Operation Ask“ thing I did when I first started this blog. Reblog this post and saying "Send me the ask!” and I will send an Ask with the below italicized text. If you reblog without actually saying “Send me the ask!” I’ll just assume you’re signal boosting the original post.

As a member of the brony community, what 3 things do you think our fandom needs to be called out on or improve upon? What 3 things would you say the fandom does good on & you would encourage to keep up? Remember, this is about fandom NOT the show itself. PUBLISH this & tag it “#LOTMOT” (short for Less of This, More of That) so others can see. Anyone who agrees/disagrees with the below answer, reply with your thoughts and experiences! Want this Ask too? Read my post tagged #LOTMOTorigin.

The point of this is to look at ourselves critically and get each other talking. DO NOT REPLY TO THIS POST WITH YOUR ANSWERS. Me sending an Ask instead of you just making a text post allows for the post to not be shortened into a link when it is reblogged. Additionally if everyone is sent an Ask, the tag can be searched and it won’t just be a unorganized mess of long answers reblogged from my original post. And if someone agrees/disagrees with a certain person’s post they can just reblog and add their thoughts to that specific person’s post.

Discussion is heavily encouraged. Disagreeing may bring understanding different view points. Agreeing can help support and strengthen emphasis on certain voices that need to be herd.

Send me the ask.

I’ll formulate a response over the next couple of days.

askasanebrony:

This is exactly what my mantra is these days.

You’ll never reach people’s minds by shouting them down. Even if you batter them into submission they will never appreciate your words.

It’s far more effective to explain the obscure, give alternatives to the bad, and demonstrate the correct.

Sure, now and then a dose of reality is what it takes to get through to someone – but it should always be counter-balanced, or out-weighed by a positive response.

Very true, the jumping up and down that tends to happen gets old very quickly and doesn’t yield any truly positive long term results, for either side.

Well thought, calm, and measured responses, while initially slow to gain traction are much more likely to prevail in the end.

It’s a fact of life that people live drama, they’re naturally drawn to it. But when it’s the same repetitive thing, people will move from it. It’s these moments that a calmer response is more likely to grab someone attention and gain traction.

There will always be people who think being rude, loud, obnoxious and offensive is the only way they can convey their message. I’ve dealt with enough arguments like that in real life and in the past online that I no longer pay heed to it.
If you feel the desire to hurl abuse at me to try make your point, don’t be surprised if I just flat out ignore you. I have more important things to deal with than someone who I know won’t listen to me anyway.

So I know it’s not really you’re style, Miss Rose, but do you ever get a craving for really inelegant food? Like big juicy burgers or just really large meals?

askscarletrose:

Well…

I do have a few dishes that I indulge in that I know are totally guilty pleasures…

Like a big pile of gooey cheesy nachos…

I’m of the firm belief that everyone should have some type of “guilty pleasure” food.
Just so long as they don’t become every-second-day foods.

Amusingly, for me, it’s actually sashimi.
Because I work away in the middle do a desert, the opportunities for me to have foods I truly want are rare, so often when I get home, one of the first things I’ll get it a heap of sushi and sashimi.

I’m sorry to say this but I’m gonna kill myself because I get grouped in with the bad part of the mlp fandom and then getting hate for it

talisguy:

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This came in to my inbox last night while I was sleeping.

Please, please don’t kill yourself over the opinions of a few uneducated nitwits on tumblr.
I’m really not qualified to tell you what to do, as I’m not of the best mental health myself, but this is one of many master posts with advice and numbers to call. 

Please don’t hurt yourself. I can assure you that you’ll leave an abyss that can not be filled in the lives of people around you.

To the people who go out of their way to harass people for the television shows they like, please stop. These are real, human lives you are toying with. Not everyone is as strong as you are, not everyone can handle vicious, petty hate thrown at them from all sides for something they can hardly help.

You are not grand crusaders of justice. You are pushing people to end their lives to escape your bullying and overgeneralizations.

You are not a stereotype. You are a normal person, and you know who you are, what you’re like and what you would or would not do/have or have not done far, far better than a bunch of people hundreds or thousands of miles away from you attacking a stereotype that doesn’t exist nearly as much as they like to think it does. You know who you are far better than they do, and so they do not get to determine how your life will play out.

Please don’t kill yourself.

Seeing this makes me really sad.
Please, I urge you to not do it. The effect is always far larger than you imagine.

Dealing with bullies and harassment is hard, I know, but you’re not alone in dealing with this. We’ll be here to help you through.
If you’re needing someone to talk to if you’re feeling down, I for one am willing to listen to anything you may have to say on Skype or any other IM service, please feel free to ask me for the details, and I’m sure there’s plenty of others who are willing to assist you through tough times too.

Others have highlighted many other good points regarding this, so I don’t think I need to parrot their advice here, however I will reiterate what broniesagainstbullshit said, if you feel like it’s getting too much, a break from tumblr to focus on outside matters and what’s truly important to you may be the right idea.

Whatever the bullies may say, doesn’t matter. You know you’re a good person, and that’s what’s truly important. If they start to get you down too much, get away from where they can get to you, and find solace in the things you love, because those are the things that will truly bring you peace.